Therapy

Hard times and challenging experiences

Periods of hardship and difficulties are very important for each of us. They show us the true complexity and depth of life and teach us about the value and importance of interpersonal relationships. They may be an opportunity to rethink the past or become a driving force for the future – to stimulate important life changes, personal growth and self-discovery. Every great story is full of twists, while the ordeal and unexpected obstacles along the way are exactly the thing, that makes them dynamic and exciting. Without them, the story would be flat and uninteresting. In the same way, we can make our own personal stories deep and meaningful, if we can manage to integrate our difficult life experiences into them.
People who would have everything served on a golden plate, who would never be challenged to overcome obstacles, would remain superficial and naive all their life. That's why it is important to appreciate hardships and even failures, because only thanks to them, we can perceive depth and meaningfulness in our lives.

Feelings of boredom and emptiness in life

It may be that life would seem rather meaningless, if the losses we've suffered were just too big to handle. Or we have forsaken our own life story and set for life in a “program” that is expected of us by someone else. It has caused inevitable weakening of life enthusiasm and strength. Sometimes we simply cannot avoid these periods and must somehow live through them. If we manage to understand them correctly, we can learn from them and utilize them, in order to reconsider our life and to start seeking our real life story – one that is authentic and genuine, and that fills us with enthusiasm for life.
It is also possible, that a certain part of our story has already come to an end, and we have entered a new phase of life in which we are not yet able to navigate and find our place. In this case it makes sense to seek new stories. Stories that will originate within our individual perspective, and correspond with the real changes in our lives at the same time.






Relationship problems

Conflicts between partners or family members are usually caused by people not being able to sufficiently meet their needs. This can be understood as a communication and self expression problem – not being able to adequately share and express our own stories, and to understand stories of others at the same time. It is usually not about “who is right”. It is rather an art of creating a relationship, that is respectful to each member and that gives everyone enough space for self-fulfillment. In such an environment, each person's story must be seen as important and valuable as other's – including the stories of children or vulnerable adults.
Some relationships can also be destructive – this usually correlates with some form of addiction. In such a situation it is important to gain a distance and look at things from higher perspective. Even ending a relationship might be the best solution sometimes.

Fear, insecurity, low self-esteem

Fear and feelings of inferiority or guilt often act as some kind of hidden "programs" that prevent us from being content. We might carry them since our childhood and they often make us suffer, without us realizing, why we have them or why they keep reappearing in our lives. These programs mix with our stories and take away our authenticity and freedom. They will accompany us throughout life, unless we decide to confront them face to face.
If we start to believe these programs and accept them as our own stories, we can easily think of ourselves as of someone who is less important, who does not deserve attention and love, or who must at least make a great effort to be worthy of it.
Fear can play many different roles in our lives, as an enemy or as a friend. It can be a trial we must overcome, a challenge to fight for righteous cause, or a call for us to learn how to truly love and nourish ourselves.